IMG_0649I have often asked the questions who am I and why am I here. What is my purpose? What is my gift?  I have stunned myself to publicly dance without rhythm, to sing without melody, and strive to explore my hidden talents.  I found joy in this exploration of myself and worked hard to be the best in areas that were not of my gifting in spite of my critics.

One thing that I have done consistently and naturally is giving and showing love to even the unloveable.  You know, the ones when you see them coming you want to walk the other way.  I try to look at people and see the face of the child masked by layers of pain to find the compassion to accept them and to heal them with love, kindness, encouraging insights and revelations.  I named this page, “The Power of The Pen” and described myself as a writer “marked by love,” because that is who I am.  I believe there is transforming power in the written word.  This is my gift.

I once had a person say to me they didn’t trust me because I smiled all the time.  She couldn’t understand that I had made a choice to be happy and to love everyone (even her in spite of her convictions).  This was my joy and I was willing to extend it to all whom I encountered.  To love is my choice.

Love doesn’t mean that one should shrink back so that that others can be enlarged, but to go boldly before men and proclaim this message that God is love and what that means.  If we can walk in that love we teach others to shine in their higher selves and release their pain.  It is healthy for your soul to know and show that forgiveness is the key to being free.  Being able to forgive the past, yourself and those who have hurt or persecuted you enables you to move forward to live an abundant life in peace and joy because you are worth it.

Marianne Williamson states it so clearly,

Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

I have learned that self-love requires humility and wisdom to accept the things that cannot be changed, courage to change the things that you can and the wisdom to know the difference.  Everyone hurts and love is the only cure for the pain.  We can’t change people, but we can plant the seeds and allow our Creator to grow them.

Isn’t it  interesting that the two Presidential candidates are polar opposites?  One promoting hate-filled messages and divisiveness and the other promoting love and unity.  Each candidate has their own flaws, but don’t we all.  I choose love, because we are worth it, won’t you?

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Know Your Worth

It is who we are, not what we have that enriches us.

– Reverend Dr. Joseph E. Lowery

Knowing your worth is vital to your success. Otherwise, in whatever you endeavor to do, others will dictate your value. Your time, talent and resources come with a price. How you determine that value lies in discovering who you are, your purpose and why what you do is important to others. Taking guided steps that lead to your full potential will secure your success as an individual and in business.

What do you do after you’ve spent years on a job giving the best you have and suddenly your skills, loyalty and dedication are devalued by your employer? I have heard numerous stories where one has suffered in their position after providing excellent service for many years. Employers have taken the route of demeaning an employee’s character and performance before severing their relationship, leaving one second-guessing their abilities and emotionally distraught. Business as usual can be ruthless and devoid of empathy for who you are, your time, talent and contributions to their success.

Carol, a dedicated and loyal administrator in education, spent 22 productive years in her profession when the tables turned. Suddenly, she was being depicted as incompetent and constantly harassed on minor issues. The devaluing of her skills had made her insecure and uncertain about her future. She decided that she could no longer take the abuse and accepted a package that fell short of her future needs. Now what does she do? What are her options as she approaches middle age? How does she move forward in a marketplace where the focus is on recruiting young talent?

I worked for a firm for 20 years and was once considered the best thing since sliced bread, and things changed, I became a target. My contributions were devalued leaving me frustrated, humiliated and fragile.  When a package deal was presented to me I couldn’t wait to take the money and run. For my sanity, I had to take a leap of faith.

My saving grace was my pursuit of a college degree, and the care of Dr. Todd Sinett and Biofeedback specialist, Michael Lodish, MA, all of which helped balanced the trauma associated with the assault on my character, abilities and reputation. Six months later, I had graduated and was faced with the big questions, where do I go from here? What is my purpose?  How do I redefine myself?

At this pivotal moment, I realized that the marketplace had changed since I last interviewed for a job. The doors weren’t swinging open for me the way they did during my prime. What was my competitive edge in this new age and generation of competitors? I took on a project as a social media coordinator and some freelance writing assignments.  As a freelance writer, not knowing the value of my time, talent and resources had left me open to selling myself short.

A good friend of mine Warren Winston had undergone a similar experience. He enjoyed a successful career at a Fortune 500 Company, but he became a target for having a bible on his desk, was undermined by a hostile director and let go. However, he moved forward with his dignity in tact because he knew who he was, what he had to offer and why what he had is important to others.

Because he was grounded in the knowledge of his identity, Warren sought to reinvent himself by wisely consulting with his Creator for his next steps. He found himself employed in a position in which he had authority over his prior employer. Yes, he had his day, but he desired something more. He was led to invest his time in people, teaching and mentoring them on the principles of success. He equipped himself with the tools he needed at the Dale Carnegie Institute and under John Maxwell’s tutelage. He has since launched five successful businesses. Knowing your worth is power!

Now, Warren coaches Fortune 500 companies and mentors individuals, showing them how to increase their bottom line and improve productivity by following simple principles for wealth, leadership and life. Recently, he began sharing with me his “Six Step Profit System.” He helped me to understand the power of knowing who I am, the value of what I do and why it is important to others, which has given me the confidence to move forward in life, to develop sustainable relationships and create a plan for my future.

Whether you are a freelance writer, CEO or a Hollywood movie star, once you understand these principles you will never again settle for less. It has not been easy starting over from scratch, but I’ve been blessed to have Warren’s guidance in discovering my identity in the marketplace and how to maximize and quantify the value of my time, talent and resources.  As I focus on the steps to reaching my true potential I am certain that I will have a successful career as a writer.

If you are interested in learning a higher way of being in your personal life or business, Warren Winston’s teaching will show you the who, why and way to fulfill your vision and increase your profits. Find out more about Warren Winston’s coaching, mentoring programs and seminars at

I don’t know what the future holds, but I know who holds my future. -Unknown